Cyber Stalking .............

Normal Fashion Blogging I promise will resume tomorrow

but for now, could you please let me vent!!!!!!


I need to start by saying - I adore my readers
The joy I get when somebody says they are going to try something that they might not have tried before, or the fun I get from tweets who say - I am so gonna get that - I love it, makes me
so warm and fuzzy inside. Please, do not for one second ever think that this
is about you - I LOVE it, and want it to continue - it is one of the reasons why I blog almost daily! and most of you I would love to meet and shop with (and many I have!)


BUT

I have had issues with one girl for a looong time.

On my kinder days, I lament that perhaps she honestly doesn't fully realise what she is doing, that she is so insecure or mentally challenged that I should just accept that this is who she is - that old cliche - imitation is the sincerest form of flattery (I want to vomit now when I hear that)

But when somebody copies every single thing you buy, tries to emulate you, tries to be YOU, to the point that it is frightening, scary and really quite a head fuck - how can that be ok? How can that be right.

More so, when they will not admit to any wrongdoing - when they continue to deny it every single time, despite there being so much proof to the contrary?

"Oh I have been looking for this for ages" is her most common line. She says it for every single reveal - does she honestly think we are all stupid?

Sadly her "I have wanted this for ages" always comes approximately one week after I have made a purchase!

Should I take legal advice - is it an actual 'crime' to make somebody else feel completely violated and frustrated to the point where they sometimes think they should perhaps give up blogging completely.

My particular brand of stalker is somebody I actually met (just once, thankfully) and it did not take very long for me to feel uncomfortable by certain things she said / did / bought etc.

Sadly by this point, I had given her a personal invitation to a fashion forum that is invite only - so she is in my face, pretty much the whole time - and I have good friends that I have made over many years on there - so why should I quit? And if you have invited somebody - can you have them leave?

She started a blog, identical to mine - she even started it with Hi Lovelies!!!!!!!

It was so unbelievable (well apart from the grammar - that really is not her forte) that it was laughable. It was like she could not actually see what she was doing - that her behaviour was OK.

Some items you pass off as, oh well, loads of people have bought that

Others, like a Hermes bag bought less than a week after I got mine - are harder to shake off. Because you cannot even begin to contemplate somebody that might go to those depths because somebody else has ........... it is too scary.

This year - and please bare in mind it is the 7th January now - she is now looking to buy a Mulberry Del Rey bag (I blogged about mine just after Christmas)

And today, I find a wanted ad from her on the forum I invited her to for (can you guess!!!!!)  ............... oh yes - A Mulberry Bayswater (I blogged my pictures about that one just two days ago, and had put a wanted ad out for this particular one on Boxing Day)

The element of coincidence left a long time ago - people contact me now to say - oh you never guess what she has done now, but it is quite amusing to anybody else looking in - it is not funny one little bit when it is actually happening to you.

No, it is not funny, it is not flattering, it is scary - to be faced with such deluded and unstable behaviour.

So many people have given me the great advice of rising above it (which is the exact same advice I would give to somebody too nomarily) - and I do, truly I do so many times - but it never stops, it is like she now gets some sick kick out of it.

And it is obvious to so many people around us, but it doesn't stop her - nothing stops her

So, and this is where I need advice

Should I contact the police or seek legal advice? (I have photos of pictures on my blog and then I see pictures of her wearing it shortly after that she posts on fashion sites - Bags, Hermes Clic Bangles, Chanel Brooches etc. that she pictures the EXACT way I do) the pictures could be mine!

Is it a crime to copy somebody to the point where they feel completely violated and that their entire existence is being stolen. I sometimes feel, WHY? why am I blogging and doing ALL of this work so that one person can find out EVEN more about me and copy me even more. You cannot block an email address from a public blog, and it wouldn't stop her anyway I suspect

Put yourself in my shoes (I am sure she has them too!!!) for a second and hand on heart give me advice on what I should/can do about it - and if you could, just for one moment think about how you might feel if it were you :(

I am a positive person, I always have been, but I find this really, really hard ...........

How should one person be allowed to do this to another?